38-year-old sister-in-law sabotages family dinners, gets called out: '[I] told them both to get out of my kitchen'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Jul 26, 2025 11:00 AM EDT

Too many cooks in the kitchen will spoil the meal! Just ask this person, who is utterly fed up with both their husband and his sister, who have been systematically destroying meal after meal. 

I don't know about you, but I've never once altered someone's meal while they were cooking it. I know some people will walk by, have a taste of that soup or sauce, and add a pinch of salt. Tasting the meal is acceptable. But when you start to add random ingredients without informing the chef, you're risking the whole dish. Even if you just add some salt or butter, you could be doing so without realizing that the chef is about to add those ingredients. Plus, if you're not cooking the meal, you could be doing literally anything else! Why not go play some video games or read a book before you have to do the dishes later on? 

Check out the bizarre add-ins this SIL has chosen to ruin the family meals below. Commenters were befuddled, with many questioning why she's even allowed in the home, let alone in the kitchen, with an attitude like that. 

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  • 01
    My husband's sister (38) lives with us and our kids. I'm well beyond fed up with her being here because of food issues. That's the only reason. So, basically, every single time I make food his sister will come in and "doctor up" the food I'm making to her liking. Like I made steak and shrimp the other day (like Applebee's) and she waited until I left the room to put a full stick of butter in my shrimp- that was already done- and when I
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    came back in, she goes "I'm pretty sure that's the taste you were looking for" and completely ruined it. It was trash. Or whenever I make spaghetti she will start dumping sugar in to the sauce, to a point of sweet spaghetti that me and my kids outright refuse to touch because it's nasty. Every single time that she can get away with it, she's doing something to the food.
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    Anyways, my husband has started doing the same thing. I went to make home made Mac last night and cheese burgers. I went to the basement to the chest freezer to grab the veggies I needed and when I came back upstairs, my husband was putting canned chicken in to the Mac n Cheese (he knows the kids absolutely hate the taste of that) and his sister has pushing blocks of blue cheese in to the partially cooked burgers. I asked what the
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    f they thought they were doing (because I've told them SO MANY TIMES to stop with the food) and neither of them had any good excuse, other than "we were just helping". I flipped out and told them to get the f out of my kitchen. Both of them told me I was overreacting, etc etc.
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    The thing is, I've openly asked my SIL to cook several times and she won't. But she won't stop with the food I'm making. My husband cooks often and I don't care if he screws with food he makes but it royally me off when my cooking is messed with and he knows that. AITA?
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    I feel like an AH because they are "just trying to help" but their idea of helping is up every single dish I make, to a point of it being disgusting.
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    People dished out their own advice, like this person who suggested having a second meal already prepared

    Pro... NTA. When they ruin a dish, set it aside in the fridge. Then when they ask 'what's for dinner' tell them they can have whatever dish they ruined. Then take your kiddos out to eat or have takeout ready for them.
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    Lan... NTA Especially considering they're just making your job harder by making your food inedible for your kids. Your sister-in-law has overstayed her welcome.
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    OtherThumbs NTA. Tell them that if they hate the food so much, they need to cook for themselves, and stop cooking for these people. Get your SIL out of your home while you're at it.
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    LeBlancTheDeceiver NTA, she sounds unhinged and why is your husband not only enabling her, but actively participating? They both s k, she needs to go asap and you and him need a long talk.
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    TemptingPenguin3... NTA. The fact that your husband has joined in on this feels like they've teamed up against you. How about not making dinner? Maybe you can get takeout just for yourself and the kids for a week or so? Husband
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    and SIL are not only insulting your cooking; they're turning your food into something the kids don't enjoy, either.
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    Petit Pied21 NTA who the f puts sugar in pasta?
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    2 cups of sugar in sauce? That's the kind of behavior that should get you banned from the kitchen ASAP

    Wide_Competition9367 OP It's repulsive. I can understand a bit of sugar to mitigate the acidic properties of the sauce but my SIL puts easily 2 full cups of sugar in to the sauce. It's so sweet and disgusting.
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    dasunt NTA at all. But by way of explanation, I suspect your SIL and husband grew up with a different style of food, and their tastes have changed. Your "nasty" is their "good". Your "good" is their "bland".
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    I have some family members like that - some like cakes so sweet that I feel like it hurts my teeth. On the flip side, I like saltier food than many people.
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    ProverbialWetBlan... NTA. If you break it, you buy it. If you ruin it, you have to eat it.
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